Deciding if you’re going to work or stay home or do some combination thereof is never easy for a mom. In many cases there isn’t really a clear answer of what’s going to be the best choice. There are pros and cons to both choices and it is something I agonized over while I was pregnant with Pumpkin. In the end I decided to return to full time work after having my daughter. Now that I’m pregnant with our second child I find myself having that work or stay home debate again. This time I know that I have to work. We recently moved to a more expensive house and there is just no way we could make it long term on just hubby’s salary.
Still, as a mom, you are torn because you want to be there for all of your child’s special moments, but you also want to provide them with the best life that you can. You can’t have it all so you just have to make the choices that are best for your family. For us, we have chosen to live in a moderately expensive area because the schools are excellent. We knew when we purchased the house that we needed my salary to afford it. I truly had no problem with that. It’s just that you start to really rethink things once you’re pregnant.
After all the snow this weekend I wound up staying home with my daughter on Monday, The streets in my neighborhood weren’t cleaned very well so I didn’t feel I could get out safely Monday morning. By Monday afternoon my daughter and I were going stir crazy. We wound up going out and doing some of the shopping that I had originally planned to do on Saturday. My daughter and I had a great time, but by the time we got back home I was exhausted. Plus I realized that if I stayed home with my daughter every day we would spend a lot of time running around and I would spend too much money. Neither one of us likes to be home for more then one day. We have to go somewhere.
For now, staying home isn’t going to happen for me because we need the money I earn and I think my daughter and I would both go crazy being home every day. When I told hubby this Monday night he said that he was glad I had settled the debate with myself. I told him not to worry that I would probably bring it up again before the baby was born. What can I say, I’m just neurotic like that.
For all the moms out there, is the stay at home or work situation something that you debated? Do you ever wonder if you should have stayed home if you work or vice versa? Please tell me I’m not the only mom who stresses about this.